When you ask different students their reasons for coming to school, they would most likely give varying explanations. This is because each person as his own outlook in life that guides his behavior and attitude. This outlook or view of life is called a philosophy. A philosophy is a particular system of principles for the conduct of life. Your philosophy of life started developing from the time you became aware of the things around you.
Some persons develop their philosophy out of their experiences in dealing with problems in life. Others willingly accept a ready-made philosophy imposed by traditions and customs. Still others drift along the line of least resistance or accept a point of view through force or circumstance.
Your family greatly influences your philosophy as well as your needs, demands, knowledge, and experience. Your philosophy guides you in making decisions and choices in life. It determines your behavior and conduct at home, in school, and in society.
The philosophy of each family is determined largely by the disposition of the father and the mother, their experiences, educational background, habits, and physical and social heritage. Most families gradually and unconsciously develop their own philosophy. A philosophy is important to a family because it gives meaning to the lives, thoughts, feelings, and experiences of all its members. It helps them learn how to live. It conditions the quality of human relationships, the choice of surroundings, family interests, and even the selection of an occupation or profession.
More specifically, a philosophy guides the conduct of individual family members and the family as a whole. It generates a feeling of completeness among members and insures unity in any family endeavor. It also helps develop criteria for making choices and decisions. In fact, it might be called a judgment yardstick. It is from one’s philosophy that the goals for house-making and family life evolve. Many of the goals stretch out into the remote future while some can be attained immediately. Whether these are immediate or distant goals, they act as stimuli to human behavior, motivating and conditioning the life of the individual and the group.
Here are some problem situations for you to analyze, your answer will reflect your philosophy.
If your friends offer you a treat to movies during school hours, would you say, “No, thanks” or would you go along with them? Why?
Your parents told you that you may not be able to enroll next school year because they are hard up financially. What would you do?
You joined a contest. What would your reactions be if you won? If you lost?
Your values, needs, experiences, and attitudes form the basis of your philosophy. Goals and standards, on the other hand, translate your philosophy into daily activities. Values are the things you give importance to. For example, you value education because possessing education will be a means of uplifting your economic condition. It would also give you power. Thus you will be helping your family, community, and country.
Your needs influence your philosophy in life. For example, a girl who is poor will generally consider money above all other things, while a girl who is rich will generally consider health and comfort of more importance.
Experience influences one’s philosophy in life. There was a case of a mother who uses to be extravagant and later on became very thrifty because of a previous unpleasant experience. She did not value money before and spent it unwisely. One day, her only child got sick, and needed hospitalization. She did not have money to spend during their unexpected situation. She, then, appealed to televiewers for help. The sad experience made her realize the importance of “saving a penny for the rainy days.”
When developing a philosophy in life, always remember to have a positive attitude toward life. Always look at the bright side. Think positively and remember that you are bestowed with intelligence that will enable you to solve any problem that will come your way. Keep in mind that “Life is what you make it.”
Examine yourself. Analyze your values and needs, your attitude toward life, the authority that your parents and loved ones impose on you, and other aspects of your life that influence your attitude. Then think of what you want to be and make plans on how to attain this. Make plans for what you believe will guide to attain your goal.